Tia recognizes that her husband’s controlling behaviour is abuse and that she has options.
If you find yourself in this position, you can get help from these resources:
What is abuse?
Lists examples of relationship abuse (family violence) that are physical, emotional or verbal, psychological, sexual, and financial; describes types of abuse that are crimes and where to get help.
If your spouse is harassing you through the courts
Describes the kinds of behaviour involved in court-related abuse and harassment and suggests what can be done.
Live Safe, End Abuse
Information about relationship abuse that explain what abuse is and where people can get help.
A graphic novel about family violence and your legal rights.
A graphic novel about a young mother who leaves her abusive partner, and the steps she takes to get support and legal aid.
Panel 1: Tia and Karen at Tia's house, hugging
Tia: It’s so nice to see you, Karen. I always feel so alone.
Karen: I know, but we shouldn’t have to visit secretly only when he’s out, Tia. It’s not normal.
Panel 3: Tia and Karen preparing to sit at a table
Tia: You know he doesn’t like me to have friends over. Or friends at all really.
Karen: That’s abuse, Tia. He’s controlling your every move.
Panel 4: Close-up of Tia
Tia: Oh no, it’s not abuse. He’s never hit me.
Panel 5: Tia and Karen chatting, Karen thinking of her partner putting his wallet in his pocket
Karen: Abuse isn’t just hitting. It’s still abuse even if it’s the stuff he does like not letting you have any money.
Panel 6: Tia and Karen colouring as they chat
Tia: Well, I guess it is his money.
Karen: No, what he earns is family money. Besides, he hasn’t let you have a job since you came to Canada!
Tia: I know – he’s so suspicious and critical. Maybe if I could just get him to trust me more.
Karen: Tia, this is not your fault. Abuse against you is never your fault. He’s the problem. You don’t need to change – you need to get help.
Panel 9: Tia covering her face
Tia: I’m trapped, Karen. I don’t have any savings or income.
Karen: But I can help you apply for money, other benefits, and even for housing.
Panel 10: Vision of Karen being welcomed into an office
Karen: Look, I know about a website with info about abuse, and about trained people who can help you, even in your own language.
Panel 11: Aerial view of Tia and Karen colouring at the table
Tia: Thank you, Karen. You know, despite everything, I still don’t hate him.
Karen: Yes, that’s natural. It’s because you’re a nice person.
Panel 12: Karen holding out a coloured heart drawing for Tia
Karen: And it’s also why you deserve so much better.