Many people believe that when children turn 12, they can choose which parent they'll live with, but this isn't true.
When your parents are trying to figure out where you'll live after they've separated or got a divorce, or if a judge is deciding, they have to make the decision based on something the law calls the child's best interests. This involves a bunch of things — not just what you want but also your relationship with each parent and their ability to take care of you.
If your parents or the judge think what you want isn't based on good reasons, or there are other important facts related to what's best for you, they can decide on living arrangements that you don't agree with.
If one parent's making it difficult for you to see your other parent, remember that you have a right to time with both your parents, if that's in your best interests.
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